rising in love

I've been spending a great deal of time thinking about this lately...

In fact a mature person does not fall in love, he rises in love. The word ’fall’ is not right. Only immature people fall; they stumble and fall down in love. Somehow they were managing and standing. They cannot manage and they cannot stand – they find a woman and they are gone, they find a man and they are gone. They were always ready to fall on the ground and to creep. They don’t have the backbone, the spine; they don’t have that integrity to stand alone.
A mature person has the integrity to be alone. And when a mature person gives love, he gives without any strings attached to it: he simply gives. And when a mature person gives love, he feels grateful that you have accepted his love, not vice versa. He does not expect you to be thankful for it – no, not at all, he does not even need your thanks. He thanks you for accepting his love. And when two mature persons are in love, one of the greatest paradoxes of life happens, one of the most beautiful phenomena: they are together and yet tremendously alone; they are together so much so that they are almost one. But their oneness does not destroy their individuality, in fact, it enhances it: they become more individual.

Two mature persons in love help each other to become more free. There is no politics involved, no diplomacy, no effort to dominate. How can you dominate the person you love? Just think over it. Domination is a sort of hatred, anger, enmity. How can you think of dominating a person you love? You would love to see the person totally free, independent; you will give him more individuality. That’s why I call it the greatest paradox: they are together so much so that they are almost one, but still in that oneness they are individuals. Their individualities are not effaced – they have become more enhanced. The other has enriched them as far as their freedom is concerned.

Immature people falling in love destroy each other’s freedom, create a bondage, make a prison. Mature persons in love help each other to be free; they help each other to destroy all sorts of bondages. And when love flows with freedom there is beauty. When love flows with dependence there is ugliness.
— Osho via http://awelltraveledwoman.tumblr.com


My kid sister, affectionally known as Bug, came into town this week for her first big international  trip. I took her to the best neighborhood spot I know where she could fight jet lag and get acquainted with the delightful strangeness that Tokyo has to offer...

Located in Shinjuku, Calico Cat Cafe is one of the most popular places where foreigners and locals can be found sipping coffee, curling up with some Manga, and enjoying some intimate one on twenty action with various felines. 

Upon entering, patrons must surrender their shoes and handbags in exchange for access to a two story cat playground. The walls along the staircase are lined with shelves where sleepy cats take naps...

For just 300 yen, you can order a "cat snack" to lure the adorable cats in a little closer for some petting and snuggles....

The cafe hosts a wide variety of cat breeds including giant Maine Coons and Munchkin Cats. 

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The cafe also hosts a wide variety of human visitors, including schoolgirls and salary men

If just petting the cats isn't entertaining enough, the cat cafe offers up cat toys and hats to dress up the most adorable cats in...

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Never dull, always weird, Cat Cafes are a must see while in Japan. 

The New Normal

image via art.com

image via art.com

Hi Friends! I've missed you all so much! How is you summer shaping up? 

Mine has been a whirlwind of changes and dreams realized. As I write to you now, I am sitting on the floor of my new, yet-to-be-furnished, home for the next five years. I would love to spend the next few weeks playing catch up with you. Here is a quick recap of the last five months: I took an epic family road trip to Oklahoma, flew around the country to say goodbye to as many loved ones as I could, packed up and sold off the remaining items from our life in Seattle, quit my job, moved to a Tokyo hotel and spent a month eating too much good food, hosted our first visitor(!), travelled to India for five weeks to get my 200 hour yoga teacher certification, moved into a new apartment in the Shinjuku ward of Tokyo, ran around town selecting grown up furniture for the first time in 30 years, and now I'm sitting here thinking of all of you :)

I would love to hear more about how you are all doing and I have to apologize for being so late in returning emails. I love and cherish you so much and I look forward to building our friendships through letters, FaceTime, and hopefully lots of memorable visits! I can't wait to hear all about your summer, your travels, your family, upcoming weddings, relationships, careers, and anything and everything in between. In the meantime, here is a quick little snapshot of what is swirling around in my heart (inspired by this post from Bluebird.)

Here are a few things that I am currently up to...

Eating/ omakase at every sushi restaurant we go to. i like to leave it to the experts!

Drinking/ water. and beer. trying to drink more water and less beer.

Practicing/ yoga. patience. self-sufficiency. emotional strength. balance.

Mastering/ poached eggs. 

Learning/ japanese. hopefully i will begin lessons next week!

Trying/ my hand at interior design. lets see how this goes...

Playing/ old skool nintendo and super nintendo video games.

Finishing/ liberty and jesse's wedding video. 

Reading/ everything i can get my hands on by nicholas kristof and sheryl wundunn. and lots and lots of tokyo blogs.

Remembering/ where i came from and what my values are.

Wearing/ dresses. this city is fancy y'all.

Cooking/ finally. we bought a pan and a kitchen knife. its on.

Working/ on being okay with the fact that i am not working. and then working on what i want to do next professionally. (think this and this combined with pre and post natal yoga.)

Traveling/ to mongolia at the end of september. hello golden eagles!

Wanting/ nothing. i still can't believe how much we have been gifted this year. every day is full of surprises and new treasures. just trying to stay present and enjoy this ride.


Ok, your turn! Where are you at right now?